Potty Training 101 by Kay Green of My Precious Kid

I am Mama to 4 great children and Nana to 4 more amazing little ones. And somewhere in between these two achievements I became a potty training teacher. I am not really sure how it happened but do find I love the process of helping parents potty train their children. It probably started when I successfully trained all 4 of my children before their 2nd birthday (including one with special needs). I did not think too much about it. I simply took the time and energy to teach my children toilet skills in the same way I taught them to eat with silverware. I set the expectation by example, gave them opportunity and rewarded positive behavior. However if seemed others thought it a unique accomplishment. There are many styles and techniques to training. And I make no apologies about the fact that my system is parent led rather than child led. I believe that all children (without mental/physical special needs) can usually be trained by their 2nd birthday given the right training and opportunity. I trained my children this way and have helped dozens of mothers train their children the same way.

One of the first steps to my system is pre-training. At about 18 months I like to start pre-training my children. During this season we talk about going potty, read potty books, and watch potty videos every day. We model potty skills for them. I also sit them on the potty 4-6 times a day during this season helped them learn to sit. I simply remove the diaper and sit them on the potty when they wake, before nap, after each meal, and before bed. I reward every time they sit with a treat. (sticker, MM, etc). I do not expect anything other than sitting during this stage.

During this time I am also looking for readiness skills from this test:
http://www.mypreciouskid.com/blog/2011/03/elizabeth-pantleys-potty-training-readiness-quiz/

During this stage I collect my supplies:

POTTY PARTY! When I feel they are ready and I have a couple weeks to set aside for this, we set up Potty Party. I really do make a big deal about this day! I want to help them see it is a great thing to learn to go potty in the toilet. You could even do balloons and special treats and a new liquid to drink lots that day. Here is my article that outlines the whole system. http://www.mypreciouskid.com/articles/potty-training.html

The keys to potty party are:

  1. Cloth training pants only. No diapers or paper pull-ups.
  2. Set a timer to help the child know it is time to try. I set it at 30-60 minutes.
  3. Reward every success!
  4. Keep your child with you so you can watch for their cues.
  5. Never ask them if they have to go potty. Simply announce potty time.

Some children will have some success the very first day. However most children get their first success the 2nd or 3rd day. Keeping them close to you during this time usually reduces the time for this to occur. When their first success happens, make a very big deal about it. Let your child call Daddy or Grandma and tell them about their success. Give a reward. Do the happy dance together!

Accidents are to be expected and desired as it is part of the training process. When the child has the accident and pee runs down their leg it feels out of control. Watch closely so you can respond quickly. Say to them, “UH-OH lets run to the potty. Hurry, Hurry. Ok Sit down and lets get all the potty out.” If they ask for a treat say oh-no, no treat this time. We will get a treat when you get the potty in the toilet. Then clean them up and put them back in dry training pants and reset the timer.

ONE WEEK – For most children I have helped train at the end of 7 days of all cloth training with the full system they are having 50% success or more. Some are done by day 7 . A few take 2-4 weeks. Keep using the timer. When they are staying dry consistently then lengthen the timer to 60 minutes, and then 90 minutes. And then when that is success I move to sending them to the bathroom when waking, before meals, snack, activity and leaving the house. If accidents start occurring simply go back to the timer for a week or so until the accidents stop. I have found that by 30 days most girls can fully self control themselves, going before they need to. Boys however seem to need the timer a bit longer.

BOYS – Yes boys can be trained by 2 years old as well. They may require using a timer and reminding to them to go in longer but that is worth it to me, rather than changing another 365 days of diapers. SIT DOWN. Little boys pee and poop at the same time. So when they are taught to stand up during training, they often will start having BM accidents. So having them sit for every bathroom trip in the beginning is important. I do not recommend letting them stand to pee until they have been day trained for at least a year.

I talk with parents everyday on my Facebook fan page who are starting the system. If you would like to have our help feel free to follow us at http://www.facebook.com/MyPreciouskid We also carry training pants, potty seats, potty videos and stickers at http://www.MyPreciousKid.com We would love to help you find the products to make your child’s training easier.

About the blog contributor:

Kay Green is a Wife, Mother of 4, Nana to 4, Business Owner, Small Business Mentor, Potty Training Teacher, and New Mom Mentor. Kay owns My Precious Kid – Child Safety & Baby Gear Store in Hillsboro Oregon with over 1000 items. She has been writing articles on child safety, parenting, building business, potty training and other unique subjects for the last 10 years. She loves helping other moms feel successful in parenting.

From Kelly:

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About Kelly Wels

Kelly Wels is a leading cloth diaper expert and advocate who has a passion for helping parents make informed decisions when it comes to how they diaper their babies. Most importantly, Kelly is a mom to three children, Olivia, Hanz and Riley. Kelly spends her free time working on several cloth diapering advocacy projects, including her new book “Changing Diapers: The Hip Mom’s Guide to Modern Cloth Diapering“, loves gardening, and consults with other entrepreneurs on their social media marketing efforts.
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5 Responses to Potty Training 101 by Kay Green of My Precious Kid

  1. Beth W. says:

    Hi! Just wanted to say that after reading this blog I tried this method with my 25-month-old and it worked great! Days 1-3 were really hard and I saw little improvement of acknowledgement of understanding, but on day 4 it clicked and we stopped having accidents. We’re now on a 6 day stretch of no accidents! And she’s going to the potty without prodding, but of her own accord. Thanks so much for this post!

  2. Kay Green says:

    Beth I am so thrilled for your. I find this is a very common occurrence when training this way. Way to go for sticking it out! I am proud of you and your daughter.

    Kay

  3. annika says:

    I agree on so many of your points! My boys were actually easier to train than my daughter. My 4th, a daughter, will start training soon, thanks for the great reminders :)
    Annika

  4. Stephanie says:

    Thanks for the tips. Having a difficult time with my 2 1/2 yr old. She had an accident in the bathtub last week and now is paranoid about taking a bath and spends way too long on the potty. Any suggestions for how to set a limit on amount of time to spend on the potty? I tried using a timer and reading a certain number of books, but it hasn’t seemed to help.

  5. Tanya says:

    I plan to use this method. we have been potty training my 2 1/2 year old for a year now. Just when I started having success last year, I got pregnant and really sick, so training was put on hold. I started again, but I have to work full-time. I am planning to take a 3 day weekend in the near future to phase out those darn Pull-ups and will buy them no more. I already have been using cloth training pants during the day, but I can sure see how this method will work.

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